Why do we always get super excited about starting something new, and then slowly start convincing ourselves that we aren’t good enough, we aren’t ready, we don’t know what we’re doing, or we don’t have anything of value to add?
Answers may vary, but the truth is that for most of us imposter syndrome has shown up in different ways depending on the situations we were facing, the circumstances we’ve been in, and most importantly how we were being called to show up.
My duty as a Self-Reinvention Guide is to always support and empower you to start with yourself when tackling any form of overwhelm that you encounter in your day to day life. When it comes to imposter syndrome, these four easy tricks have helped me and other women to step in our power and beat imposter syndrome.
1. Mind Your Words – Lauren Bonheim
Negative self-talk is something that we have all encountered when dealing with the overwhelm of imposter syndrome. Those feelings of not being enough, not knowing enough, or not having enough to show up and do what we are being called to do can often result in that little voice in our heads getting dramatically mean and nasty.
On our panel discussion, Lauren opened up about how she overcomes her negative self-talk by naming that voice in her head. What would you name yours?
Every time that voice pops up to add a little self-doubt and fear into the mix Lauren recommends that you thank him/her for their input and move on by focusing on what’s true and what uplifts you in those moments.
… but, what if I can’t think of something to lift me out of self-doubt?
2. You’re Doing Amazing, Sweetie – Erica Moss
Can you think of a time when someone acknowledged you for the work you’re doing? Of course you can! Even if it was just a simple, “thank you!” for helping someone solve a problem or decide on what to eat for lunch.
Erica shared how she beats imposter syndrome by keeping a file of all the ways people affirm and acknowledge her and how she shows up!
I call this my “Kind Words for Difficult Days” folder, and it’s actually something I learnt about and started implementing last year after working with my branding and visibility coach at one of our retreats.
My folder contains messages from friends and family who have shared how my coaching insights are helping them to re-evaluate their own self-care practices and that reminds me that I am actually good at this, what I am doing is enough for those who need it, and I am serving others in my full capacity as a coach.
3. Two Things Can Be True at Once – Margherita Sgorbissa
For some of us imposter syndrome can convince us that we should be taking a very all or nothing approach to whatever we’re doing. I know I’ve been there!
Margherita candidly shared how she learnt to accept that she can be learning and growing while also being successful in what she sets out to do. This can be a very hard concept to accept when we are starting out, but remember this: imperfect action is better than no action.
Why? It’s just like Margherita says, when you take imperfect action you’re learning what works best for you and what will help you be even more successful when you keep showing up again and again with new, creative ways to lead you to your intended outcome.
4. Dance it Out! – Valentina Ruffoni
Now Valentina was very specific when she shared that behind the scenes to set herself up for success to speak up and shine, she likes to dance it out to reggaeton!
My favourite music and dancing helps me to unwind, release, and reconnect with my true self – and most importantly it reminds me to just have FUN!
Imposter syndrome can often take away the joys of the things that we have been working hard behind the scenes to create. These are just a few ways that have worked for me and other incredible women as we manage our emotions, thoughts, and actions that result from experiencing imposter syndrome.
What about you? Have you experienced imposter syndrome and how did you address it and overcome negative self-talk?
This post is inspired by advice shared by my fellow panelists during our March 2021 CMX Connect Madrid discussion on Overcoming Imposter Syndrome.